You Will Get Nowhere Waiting For Approval From Everyone

“Surround yourself with like-minded individuals to support your growth.”

It’s an empowering quote, but truth be told, it’s difficult. People won’t always share similar passions or approach goals the way we do. Even when we are surrounded by like-minds, we are individuals. We have the right to be who we choose. Which tends to be forgotten sometimes (well, often in my case).

The best are the opinionated people in our lives. There’s a huge difference between constructive criticism and straight nagging. And it’s very easy to distinguish the two. “Why are you so interested in that?” “What made you decide to do that?” or “Why do you like them?”. They’ll sneer and roll their eyes, while letting out cynical scoffs. In that instance, our soul deflates and we feel stupid for sharing in the first place. Worst part is, hearing ridicule enough, eventually breeds doubt. Big dreams slowly start to become silly little ideas. Suddenly, you’re left on your own, questioning why you even set certain goals in the first place.

So what do you decide in that lonely moment? What to do when you feel ostracized, lack motivation, or don’t have support? Do you fold and blend in for refuge from critiques? Or do you keep pushing forward?

In reality, the only person who will fully understand your goals is yourself.

We’re often made to feel security in groups. We need to have a #squad to back us up for everything we want to accomplish. Which, I fully admit, it’s easier to do things when I have support. Though, truth is, every life venture isn’t meant to run in a pack. Sometimes, you have to do some things alone and believe wholeheartedly in your goals. Even if you seem to be the only person who does.

Yes, that’s probably going to mean a lot of training on your own. Late nights and early mornings dedicated to whatever you need to get ahead. It also means a lot of extra work with nothing to show for it, except your own personal acknowledgement of continuing to pursue your goals. In other words, chasing dreams can be a lonely path.

But it doesn’t have to be a death sentence.

I read an article where the writer used a term for people who go out and take what they want in life. He calls them hunters. Those who aren’t satisfied with mediocrity and have an intense thirst for more in life. They visualize their future and don’t let anyone detour them away from it.

It’s time to start being a hunter.

We are so trained to be “safe”. “Do what the majority approves and your life will be peachy”. Maybe for once, explore the territory of being an outsider and not always being included. Stay true to the goals, dreams and principles you deeply value. If you don’t know what those are, a little time being isolated might actually help bring some clarity. People are always going to find something to say. If you know it’s deconstructive, tune it out. Post what you want, wear what you want, go where you want, act how you want, say what you want.


Don’t count on the rest of the world to form you into what you desire. Trust yourself and believe in your potential. People with like-minds and similar attitudes will come into your life naturally. AND You don’t have to wait for them to come in order to start your journey. You can only be limited by your own passion and desire. Breaking past those limitations means you’ve got to do it on your own sometimes. The road toward your success might get a little lonely sometimes, but remember what you’re working toward. The day will come when you’ll be glad you did. :)

Sending love and light always. <3



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